It’s Valentines Day. I should probably write something about Love and all of it’s magical properties, but let’s be honest. I’m soooo single, it actually is funny. This month is plagued with the L topic. Seriously. We’re talking about it in the youth group I work at. It’s the subject of many a movie coming out, (by the way, saw the Vow, and actually loved it. And I am so not a Romantic Movie Girl.) and the subject of many of the conversations I’ve had with friends and family. Every blog post, and video is dedicated to it. And rightly so.
It’s a ridiculously complicated subject that we tend to screw up over the littlest and biggest things. We need help with it! And, I’m learning, that does in fact mean even from one who is super single. (Also, I’m totally ok with singleness, even on Valentines Day, or Tuesday, as I call it.) However, I feel like I am tapped out from the advice I’ve been giving out about romantic situations and the like, so I’d like to talk to you about how you can love your friends, family, coworkers, and randoms.
As a single person, especially this time of year, it gets a little annoying to have everyone worried about your love life for you. Just me? I think not. But the trying to set me up or telling me, “He’s out there some where!” really isn’t all that encouraging. I know you all mean well, but I would prefer this:
1. Spend some time with me.
This seems obvious, but alas, it is one of those things that gets overlooked so often. Perhaps not everyone enjoys this, there are odd balls out there, but I don’t know many a person who doesn’t like to spend time with their friends. And for those of you who are waiting for someone to invite you somewhere, get up off your butt and go invite someone yourself! If you’re miserable and blaming it on others, there generally is a good chance that you could make at least one change that would help the situation. In this case, be the friend to make the first move. It’s ok, even if you’re a girl, or a shy bird.
2. Think about me.
Again, I feel like this should be obvious, but it just doesn’t happen. Think about the people around you that you want to let know that you love them. Think about what they talk about, what they like, what they do. Just take 5 minutes and actually think about them. Not what you would like, but them. I know I often catch myself doing something for family or friends that gets overlooked or under appreciated, not because what I did was wrong, but because it wasn’t something they cared about. For example, someone could vacuum and dust my room, and I wouldn’t care or notice (and it probably really needs it.). If someone did that for my mother? She might have a coronary, she would feel so loved, which is why it doesn’t happen that often, because we want to keep her around. It’s all about knowing your audience. If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages yet, well, you’ve probably heard enough about them to have a guess what it’s about, because I haven’t read them either, but if you haven’t, you should, and then tell me how it is, because apparently it talks all about this.
That’s all I’ve got. Because I honestly think that that’s really all you need to make the special people, who aren’t the “special person” in your life, feel special. Spend time with them, and think of them. You’ll be amazed what will happen! AND you can do this all year round and not look creepy, whereas if you try to send a singing telegram to someone for no reason, you’re likely to end up with a restraining order instead of a thank you!