As a parent we will do anything we can to protect and do what’s best for our children. We can go overboard and do too much though. Did you ever think you could do to much or push too hard? Did you ever realize you could do less and feel less stressed?
Well, ya can. By giving your kids the power to make decisions and trust those decisions you can alleviate some of those parenting stressors.
I’ve been a parent now for 8.5 years and I’ve seen some crazy shit parents do out of love for their kids but most of the time it’s the parent “thinking” its best for their kid. Most times we don’t know what is best simply because we are not in their body, they are.
We want and strive to serve our kids the best possible way by using OUR judgment and past experiences as focus points but kids don’t get this and it really doesn’t serve them. We are taking away their power and confidence to make decisions for themselves and this leads them to believe that they shouldn’t be trusted.
By allowing our kids to make their own choices, we teach them such a valuable lesson… confidence and trust in themselves and their intuition, their gut feeling.
They will learn to trust their gut and be confident when the felt they had the power to decide something that adults mostly do. I don’t see many children making choices and not being persuaded by a parent in some way. I’ve learned this and I can name countless times I have tried to persuade my daughter to do something I wanted her to do because I believed it was best, but it just doesn’t turn out how I want.
I did this a lot when she entered into kindergarten and saw social changes in her. This is when I started working on myself and my eyes were opened in a whole new way, a new world really.
In a child’s world there is no filter and there is no holding back from what they will do to get what they want. Children are smart and find ways to express their feelings and get what they want with no-one in mind but themselves.
If you are a parent and reading this, you get what I am saying.
Intuition exists in children in a very strong way. They trust themselves and see nothing wrong with speaking their mind and letting anyone within earshot knowing how they feel. They sing loudly, run in grocery stores and throw temper tantrums on the floor. They want to be seen and heard and they will be.
As we grow into young adults, experiences in our lives screw with our confidence and intuition, such as a parent’s ugly divorce, being put on a diet a young age cause your doctor believes you are too fat or too skinny for your age, a bad first boyfriend or girlfriend, any type of abuse, I can go on and on. This is us, the parent and this is why we try to protect our kids from the world causing them the same pains we went through. And this is what I want to try and prevent, damage in my kid’s mind.
I have learned as my daughter grows to trust her and a lot of the times she is right. I have allowed her to speak her mind and make decisions such as what she wants to wear to school, eat for breakfast, if she want to wear a winter jacket, hat, or gloves. Now don’t get me wrong if it’s 2 feet of snow out there I just give it to her but if she feels she is getting warm and wants to take of the hat, I let her.
She is sharp as most kids are and knows what she is feeling better than me, he mother. So I trust her and I let her know I trust her. I make an effort to ask her each day how she is feeling and let her know that it is okay to tell me anything at all.
I have done so much self-development on myself that I want to share it with her and also with you.
I hope to get across to you that kids are smart, smarter than we believe them to be. They know what they want and don’t want, they know how they feel and they will for the most part make the right decisions for their own little body and brain.
Trust in your kids and give them the confidence for a happy and successful life.
<3 Lauren Jean